No More Long-Distance And No More Facebook

The Eiffel Tower from the top of the Printemps building in Paris, 2013

Yep, you read that right. Tomorrow I’m waking up at the butt crack of dawn to hop on a plane to spend the next six days with my love and our closest friends from Edinburgh; and I’m canceling my Facebook account.

I don’t know when it started. Maybe it was when Will cancelled his Facebook account two years ago or sometime after that but the thought that I don’t need Facebook kept creeping up. I justified keeping it because of the birthday reminders and the long-distance friendships; but somewhere down the road those reasons turned into excuses. I was still missing birthdays and baby announcements and photos of friends’ travels. Huffington Post and “suggested posts” started crowding my news feed and I didn’t know any of the “people I may know”. Facebook wasn’t keeping me connected anymore, it was just wasting my time (among other things – 1, 2).

A couple of weeks ago a friend of mine told me she was thinking about quitting Facebook. That opened up a discussion about being intentional about what we share on the internet and how we spend our time. It also got me thinking about who out of my 696 Facebook friends would try just a little bit harder to keep in touch. No, this isn’t a test to see who my real friends are but an attempt to bring back a level of intimacy and connectivity I crave in my friendships.

Last week I started the process of letting everyone know and taking down my pictures. It’s been a fun trip down memory lane and, honestly, a little bit anti-climactic. But that’s life: things start and end all the time. So, that’s the long of it.

The short version is I don’t think Facebook is very satisfying. I don’t exactly know what type of satisfaction I’m expecting from Facebook or why I’m even expecting a level of satisfaction from it at all but I’m over it.

Au revoir!

 

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6 thoughts on “No More Long-Distance And No More Facebook

  1. The only reason I keep facebook is so my grandma and my mother in law can see pictures at the moment, it has also been very useful for selling used textbooks for Fredrik but I think when we do our next move it will be a thing of the past for me.

    • Yeah, I keep in touch with my fam and best friends via iMessage and email or I’d just keep it. It’ll be nice to not feel obligated to check it now… And keep accountable for updating my blog ;)

  2. You are speaking my language! I’ve SO been thinking about quitting facebook. I keep justifying it because we love so far away from friends and family but the truth is…those people don’t keep in touch. At all. I think it would be a good idea to start taking down some albums and go quiet. I don’t like that I’m checking it all the time. For what?! Cat pictures and Huff Post articles I’m not interested in but someone shared?! I mean, it’s time.

    • Yeah! And you do a great job with your blog and keeping it all updated. This is going to help me buckle down and post in more “real-time” if you know what I mean?

  3. I completely understand. 2015 will be my 10 year anniversary on the thing. I just may celebrate it by closing my account. It’s changed a lot of over the years..and I think I just may be over it.

    Also, let’s Skype in the near future (since you’re trying to be intentional and all…)

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